There’s plenty of talk going around in the coaching world about the power of possibility or possibilities. What we mean by this, is identifying something we want to achieve and believing it is possible. It then becomes a possibility.
A mistake that we can often make is to fixate on an outcome and feel disappointed when it doesn’t come to fruition.
Expectation = Disappointment
When approaching a desired outcome as a possibility we shift our intention to a lighter intensity, and the feeling of disappointment is greatly diminished.
Who wouldn’t want to avoid feeling disappointed by life?
It doesn’t mean that we are denying our desires or pretending we don’t care, it is simply that we don’t allow ourselves to STAY upset when things don’t turn out the way we’d like them to.
Planning and powerful intention are key to approaching our desires with a sense of possibility. We choose something we want, then we imagine what achieving that will look like and feel like.
Allow that whole picture to develop. Then write it down, on paper, not electronically. Capture what you want your action to give you, dig deep.
If you want a romantic relationship, what do you want it to feel like when you are in that? What does it feel like to be you, in a relationship that you truly desire?
Be mindful NOT to hit upon a feeling that is dependent upon someone or something outside of yourself ‘giving’ you that feeling.
Such as, ‘I feel loved.’ If you are aiming for something that you feel you cannot create for yourself then you aren’t creating a powerful intention. Choose ‘I feel love.’
The point is to develop a powerful relationship with your own emotions, feelings, intentions and BE them, in turn you take ACTION from that space, and start LIVING and EXPERIENCING that in your life.
I have set actions in this way for over two decades and have been loving the journey and achievements this has created for my life.
To make space in our minds to BELIEVE in our possibilities, it’s useful to remind ourselves that we don’t really know what’s possible in life.
Don’t fall into the trap of going for the next most likely outcome. Aim for your own special recipe of satisfaction, HOLD that feeling, BE it, and take ACTION.
To help clear away presumptions and make space for possibility- I ask myself these questions.
-Where and when have I jumped to a conclusion about what would happen and been proved wrong?
-How did it feel to have an unexpected outcome?
-How does it feel to believe that only the predictable will happen?
-Can I notice that presumption forming and release it next time?
I also use a tool called the ‘I don’t know file.’
When I catch myself feeling that I know for certain how something is going to go, I remind myself to pop that thought into the ‘I don’t know file.’ The truth of the matter is, that I don’t know for certain what will happen, I then replace that thought with –
‘It’s possible that_______could happen.’
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