If you’re part of a difficult relationship, it is likely that you have the experience of both of you trying to wrestle control.
It is a false belief that if only others would change their behaviour, then we would be happy and so would they.
We can fall into the trap of thinking that when some people do things we don’t like, that they are wrong.
Then, in believing we are right and they are wrong, we try to impose our beliefs on them.
What we are attempting to do is fill our energy levels from others.
We try and protect our beliefs and make ourselves feel better, by making others wrong.
We can slip into these dramas, then we blame others for our way of being and in doing so we lose our true agency and inherent power.
The possibility of connection with others is lost, our communication loses it’s integrity and we get ourselves in a right pickle!
These are the 4 control dramas
Intimidation
Aloof
Interrogation
Self Pity
It is easier to see when others do it, rather than seeing ourselves.
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