You already know what to do.

We can all stop searching, we already know what to do.

Instead of searching for the answer. Reading the articles, listening to the podcasts, asking friends what they think. Stop scrolling for the perfect framework, the magic bullet, the expert who’ll finally tell you what to do. Take the time to be quiet.

It is your quiet knowing voice inside of you that is getting drowned out. But how do we actually access this inner voice?

What is the Default Mode Network.

Your brain has something called the Default Mode network.

It’s the part that switches ON when you’re not frantically doing things or consuming information.

It surfaces when you’re walking without your phone, staring out the window, having a bath or a long shower, lying in bed before sleep.

This is when your brain processes, connects dots, makes sense of things. This is when you actually realise you know what you know, and how to choose what you actually want.

Most of us never even give ourselves enough space for it to switch on. We fill every gap with podcasts, scrolling, productivity, noise. Do you even find it hard to read a book now?

How to access your inner voice – practical steps

Stop filling the gaps between things.

Go for a walk without your phone.

Sit and stare at nothing for ten minutes.

Have a bath without scrolling.

Let yourself be bored.

It will feel uncomfortable at first. Your brain will protest.

It’s been trained to need constant input.

However, underneath all that noise is your actual thinking. Your real knowing about what you want and what you need to do.

Give it space. Give it time.

Let your Default Mode Network walk you home.

What does knowing what to do next look like?

Well, it isn’t always a big audacious light bulb moment, that’s for sure.

It’s the ability to choose a direction of travel, even if you aren’t certain how it’ll turn out. Your ability to choose comes from knowing that you have made the time to consider it for yourself.

Knowing that you might get it wrong, really is part and parcel of the process. We can choose to move forward, just because.

Kindly encouraging yourself means understanding that even if you stumble, you’ll figure it out. Because you always have, haven’t you?

My partner regularly reminds me when I wobble about following my gut.

He says ‘Something always turns up.’ and he’s right, it always has.

We’ve now had 20 years together and have risked a good number of things along the way, not knowing the outcome. Those experiences have built our resilience, rather than compounded any fear of action.

What would you rather experience?

Having a go, it not working and learning something else, or never trying, always wondering and getting more and more afraid of the next step?

It really is your call.

You get to choose.

You’re more capable than you think

I’ve worked with hundreds of people over the years.

I’ve never worked with anyone who genuinely couldn’t handle what life threw at them.

I’ve seen people doubt themselves. Feel lost and overwhelmed and terrified, but I’ve never seen someone who wasn’t capable of figuring it out, getting back up, or finding their way onwards.

You are far more resilient than you give yourself credit for.

The fact that you’re here, reading this, looking for something, that tells me you’re already doing the work. You’re already brave. You’re already trying.

What would happen if you stopped waiting for certainty and just had a go?

I’m not saying you’ll get it all right. That’s not the point.

Make choices based on what feels true to you, even if no one else understands. (Our eg. Alan kayaked for 22 hours across the Irish Sea for charity, after only ever being in a kayak twice before – Mike buddied him, in a double kayak)

Try things and change your mind. (Our eg. We moved all the way to Italy, and back again)

Listen to that quiet voice instead of the loud bellowing of everyone else’s opinions. (Our eg. Going self employed back in 2007)

You’ll figure it out, because you always have. (Our eg. Every single time!)

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If you’re ready and want support in untangling the noise that’s drowning out your own voice, I’m here.

My work isn’t about giving you answers, it’s about helping you trust the ones you already have.