BLOG: Stretching out of my comfort zone

Last June I was the guest chef for the second time at a local bar in Chorlton, Manchester.

I had held 6 wild food evenings at a smaller local café before that, but when I was invited to run a Guestrant at Electrik, my stomach flipped over! I felt excited, flattered and terrified!I am not a trained chef, but I have always loved feeding people and loved running my small, intimate, did I mention…SMALL wild food nights.

I knew I had to recruit another brilliant pair of hands to keep me calm in the kitchen. My friend Aleyna, had always helped me with my wild food evenings, but she had left Manchester in January 2011 to start her incredible shop in Suffolk earlier in the year,  her absence left a huge gaping hole.

My new right hand woman arrived in the form of Deanna Thomas, food blogger, professionally trained chef and joint founder of  North Star Deli  back in 2003. We created a menu using my wild food knowledge, that others might then hopefully feel inspired to recreate.  Deanna has a big reputation and her professional expertise were both a most welcome relief and a scary prospect. I knew that I wanted to do my very best to make sure that her reputation wasn’t left in tatters after associating with me! Together we delivered 3 courses of tasty, beautifully presented.

The night was reviewed by North South Food Blog and I can honestly say that night I felt STRETCHED well out of my comfort zone. I didn’t feel panicked though, because I had all the help around me that I needed. Plus the passionate conviction that responsible foraging and eating of wild food is something worth sharing.

 

 

 

Testimonial/Guest blog by Deanna

A great description of how an individual can feel within the coaching journey. Thanks Deanna, you’re great!

Everybody has a ‘to-do ‘list, right?
There are the daily ones – pick up dry cleaning, buy stamps, call so and so etc.

But most people also have a life ‘to-do list’ that maybe one day they’ll get round to – lose weight, travel world, write a book, start own business etc. These are the kind of things that could dramatically improve your life in some way, so what stops us from achieving our bigger dreams and goals? Obviously there are practical reasons such as children, money, school term times, money etc. (Did I mention money?) But when do the real reasons become excuses and a kind of self sabotage? What’s stopping you actually doing the things that you’ve been putting on the back burner?

I went to visit my friend Beth who is a life coach. In simple terms, this isn’t counselling or therapy, it’s a way to help you try and turn your dreams and ambition into practical reality.

In six structured sessions, a life coach can help you to reassess your priorities and accelerate the process of you realising your ambitions – after all, you’d have got round to it yourself anyway, one day,wouldn’t you? Coaching aims to help you change your whys? to why not’s? And your ‘I’ll do it later’, to ‘I’ll do it now.’

Have you ever taken the time out to sit down and work out exactly what small changes you could make to improve the quality of your life and then made a plan of action to make that happen?
Booking a course with a life coach helps you to focus. Beth uses visualisation exercises and other techniques to help shift your brain from thinking in the abstract to understanding that you can make things possible, starting now.

People put up all sorts of barriers and make lots of excuses to stop them moving forward. Mine were quite simple but big enough to have formed a blockage to personal progress. I’d had a couple of children and lost the structure and purpose of a working day which lead to weight gain and loss of professional self-esteem. I didn’t have the confidence to get new projects off the ground.

I was incredibly lucky to have found Beth who happens to have connections in our mutual field so was able to give me practical support and introductions as well as coaching. I went to visit her at her house for my six sessions, which were held over a few months. I did a lot of talking whilst Beth filtered out the nonsense, helping me to focus on what I was actually trying to achieve and come up with a more practical plan to go about it.

These sessions take place over a period of time significant enough to help you acknowledge small changes happening in your life. That’s another thing people don’t do enough, take time out to acknowledge the small victories and see how they form together and gather real momentum to affect significant and positive change.
The sessions are really an investment in your own future but it’s not a magic cure. It takes hard work in the form of self analysis, honesty and goal setting and then the courage to apply the changes which only you can do.

Beth’s a good listener but she’s also a straight talker and she clearly gets genuine pleasure from helping people become empowered enough to realise their own dreams. Change doesn’t happen overnight but I can see my life having improved step by step since my coaching experience with Beth and now I know what I have to change to achieve the rest of my ambition.

Selfish…me?

Who says being happy is selfish? Spending time consciuosly considering what will make you happy & going for it, is one of the best things that you can do for others around you. It has a knock on effect. Calm, joyful, charismatic people-they are like magnets attracting people to them, the domino-joy effect.

People who consider themselves to be self expressed & living their lives fully are not the grumpy people sitting in the corner conplaining about life.

Think about when you are in a good mood, when all is well with the world, you have a smile on your face, and no matter what the weather is doing, you are shining inside. Do you feel more compassion towards your fellow humans at this time? Do you feel you want to bring a smile to others’ faces? Do you want to share your joy with others? Yes, yes yes!

Each of us are responsible for what we contribute to the world, look at what you are doing right now, RIGHT NOW! Are you enjoying what you are doing? Is there is something else that you would rather be doing? If so, get on & do, or make steps towards it.

It starts with the tiniest acts. I was sat on a bench reading an article in a magazine waiting for my train to Edinburgh to see great friends on Friday and the article asked me ‘Are you enjoying what you are doing?’ On the surface I thought yes, I’m having a weekend away, what could be better? Then I asked myself again and noticed how my body was feeling? I realised that I didn’t want to be sitting down. I had a 4 hour journey, alot of sitting down, ahead of me.  I’d been so bothered about dashing to grab a seat in the waiting area, that I didn’t even consciously think whether or not I actually wanted to sit! Plus I’m a strong person-I didn’t know if in the standing crowd around me if there were someone else that needed the seat more.

Well I gave up my seat, willingly and stood up and waited. My seat was then immediately filled by someone else and I realised in that very simple act that mindfulness, being in the present, asking myself  ‘Am I enjoying this…is this what I want to be doing?’ is a question I want to ask myself more often. So simple.